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The price of doing nothing is just to high for our kids to pay. We must bring change now before more damage is done. 

"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men" 

Fredrick Douglass

BULLYING: What You Should Know?
What is Bullying?

The conscious, willful & deliberate hostile activity intended to harm, induce fear through the threat of further aggression and create terror. Not about anger or conflict - it's about contempt Contempt reflects: A sense of entitlement Intolerance of others Liberty to exclude

There are (4) Kinds of Bullying:
  1. Verbal - most common (70% of bullying)
  2. Physical - most visible (less than 33%)
  3. Cyberbulling - the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature.
  4. Relational - most difficult to detect and the most powerful in middle years (onset of adolescence)
Bullying is Not:
  • Normal childhood behavior
  • Sibling rivalry
  • Impulsive aggression
Warning Signs that a child has been Bullied:
Teasing and Taunting
  • Kids can easily swap roles 
  • Not intended to hurt 
  • Maintains the dignity of everyone 
  • Pokes fun - lighthearted, clever 
  • Intends both parties to laugh 
  • Innocent in motive
  • Stops when someone gets upset 
An abrupt lack of interest in school
  • Takes unusual route to school
  • Grades suffer
  • Withdraws from family & school activities
  • Is hungry after school - says he lost his money or lunch
  • Takes money from parents without permission
  • Makes beeline for bathroom when she gets home
  • Sad, sullen, angry or scared after receiving a phone call or email
  • Does something out of character
  • Uses derogatory or demeaning language about peers. Stops talking about peers
  • Has disheveled, torn or missing clothing
  • Physical injuries not consistent with explanation
  • Stomachaches, headaches, panic attacks, can't sleep, sleeps too much, exhaustion
Why won't they tell an Adult?
  • Ashamed
  • Fear of retaliation
  • Doesn't think an adult can help
  • Doesn't think an adult will help
  • Bought into the concept that bullying is a part of growing up
  • Believes adults are a part of the lie (that it is a part of growing up) since adults also bully them
  • Learning that telling on a peer is bad
Bystanders - Lookie Lou's
  • 81% peers reinforced the bullying 
  • 85% peers were involved in some way 
  • 48% peers were active participants 
  • 13% peers intervened 
Why won't they intervene?
  • The bully is my friend
  • It's not my problem (apathy & indifference breeds contempt)
  • He's a loser anyway
  • She's not my friend
  • He deserved it
  • Bullying will toughen him up (often the attitude of adults)
  • A deeply embedded code of silence
  • It's better to be in the in-group than defend the outcasts
  • It's too much effort
The Cover-Up
  • Kids try to cover their:
    • shame,
    • humiliation,
    • embarrassment, etc.,
    • with fake smiles & nervous laughter
  • If it is not relieved he or she can Implode or Explode

Websites about Bullying & Cyberbulling

Resources - Where can you go to find out more?

ACT–Adults and Children Together–Against Violence - actagainstviolence.apa.orgv
Provides audio, video, and training materials for adults to use to teach young children (ages 0 to 8) nonviolent problem-solving. Includes an extensive and searchable database of publications on violence prevention for children. -
Provides individuals and organizations with information, resources, education, training, events, and campaigns that increase awareness of the issue of bullying and ways to respond to and prevent bullying.
No Bully -
Partners with schools and school districts to help them create bully-free learning communities. Features a series of “Solution Team” structured meetings to help a student that is being bullied. Website includes training workshop descriptions and YouTube links about the No Bully Solution Team experience